The Consequences of Unnecessary Fear

The Consequences of Unnecessary Fear
by: June Val

It can be amazingly disturbing what you catch when you observe your surroundings. Many would find me creepy for doing surveillance when I am standing outside getting some fresh air. Though they may not know that behind the scenes, a writer is absorbing the details of what occurs around him. Part of the trade when you enter the field. Details is a must, especially when you try and make sense of your surroundings.

I haven't lead a fulfilled life; I must admit, but I have developed skills during my isolation periods to which I have used to attempt and combat my own depression, social anxiety and stress. Among these; I had entered the field of psychology, and comparative philosophy. I may not know all that there is to know, and God knows that I still have my struggles today in age, which challenges my ego to full extent. But if I can say one positive thing about loneliness, it would be this:

The world is your oyster when you got nothing to lose, so it doesn't matter what the end result is, because you got nothing to live for.

I guess this is what caused me to detach from nearly everything in my life over the years. This became my protective shield. One I would defend for a long time; furiously if needed, and without regrets.

It is the darn-est thing, that thought process changes the moment you do have something to lose and you begin to dwell in despair and regret for your past choices. The feeling of love changes a person, and it can serve as a wake up call when you live in a fantasy world surrounded by the very walls you built around yourself. This type of security becomes your nightmare when you attempt to take them down. Your security becomes so deep, you did a very good job in separating yourself from existence.

But love, love is the catalyst to this world created, and it threatens that very security, that which is built to protect the heart from ever experiencing pain. However the negative side of love is, if you don't express it (unconditionally), it becomes suppressed, and Just like any suppressed emotion, it can explode and catch you by surprise.

On the other hand, conditional love; which is expectant, causes fear of it not being returned. This type of love is mostly related to lust, and In a way, you can say that, lust is disguised as conditional love.

While on that topic

 let's say a girl from U.K  somehow avoided being negatively programmed by society, and was in full expression of unconditional love. She meets a guy from the U.S who only knows conditional love. Now, because the guy only gets this type of attention when a girl is interested in him back in the U.S; he is also programmed to believing that this girl he just met has interest in him.

This is often mistaken as a "flirt", while the girl may be "flirty" in society's point of view, the guy ends up falling for her conditionally. Let's say the girl is like this with everyone she meets, and she and the guy end up together. He will then display the face of jealousy as he watches her being "flirty" with others. However, on the other hand, he may be aware of the programmings that "fliting" on its own is basically an implant of ideas.

In terms, the guy ends up verbally abusing the girl, the girl then sees this as negative and they both end up in an argument and dislike after. Now, the guy sees men, who also only know conditional love, and mistake her friendliness for being "interested in them". They then attempt to interfere between the relationship and the guy ends up feeling threatened. He then, displays jealous behavior, and attempts to put himself between them and his partner.

The girl meanwhile is unable to understand that he is doing this because his mind already knows what the men want. In her point of view, she isn't doing anything wrong, she is just being herself, but her naiveness causes her to be blind to what is occurring in her partner. The guy's point of view however, is that he knows what these man want, and feels the need to protect her from these men, based however, on his own fears.





Neither side did anything "wrong" per say. They were just following what they have already observed during the course of their lives. This type of relationship, unless both partners are willing to put themselves in eachother's shoes, usually ends up in many disputes with the end result being separation.

The girl, who has never felt such pain before changes her perception on this experience. Thus closing her heart from the world based on a new found fear of relationships, and men in general.

The guy ends up mistrusting relationships and in isolation. You'd be surprised how often this is common in the western world. Then again, that is an assumption from my part. But this shows how a single misunderstanding can cause a chain of events down the line if it is not faced in time or dealt with.

Then there are those males, like me, (and I know it is ego to have me relate here, but there is a point to this) who observe, and become patient through direct experiences with these emotions, the more they do shadow work, healing the past. If you are constantly looking at the past, it is possible there is a reason for this. Sometimes the observer in the mind, goes back to the event to see the hidden lessons. It only hurts because we turn away from the event with disgust. It is resistance after all, and we get stuck in our own personal hell because of our unwillingness to cooperate with that which is showing us these things repeatedly. There is a lesson, learn it, or continue facing this.

"If nature thrives for evolution, then nature will attempt to find its way to perfection when corrupted, wounded and unhealed."

If it is natural to go back to the past, then there is a reason for it.

However, in the case of man, sometimes they end up inside the shadow's labyrinth unable to find a way out of a predicament. Here they become vampires to others, because they are in a constant state of paranoia, unable to understand the reasons why things transpired.

It is unfortunate that in the western world, there are many cases such as this, and emotions keeps becoming demonized by society. Notice the pills that pops up for suppressing nearly all emotions. Makes you wonder about robots, and puppets. Ultimately, man ends up fearing his own emotions, thus ends up fearing his true nature. This causes him to wear the mask society had bestowed upon him, to be obedient and to follow the crowd.

Thinking for yourself gets you outcasted. After all; a man who thinks for himself is a threat to the establishment. But, nevertheless, there are those in society that are stuck between society and their true nature. The inner conflicts of belief, becomes a personal hell of schizophrenic moments.

The other day, I read this comment:

"When you talk to god................ you are praying. When god talks to you..............you are SCHIZOPHRENIC. "

When "God" talks to you you are Schizophrenic. Schizophrenia is the result of suppression, so what are you suppressing? The shadow is that which is unexpressed, the voice, your emotions, your true way of being, your anger, your hate, your love, your laughter, your humanity, your true nature.

Tobias lars mentioned something about trusting your triggers and allow things to surface. To allow consciously your shadow to surface and observe.


Now this brings me to the story, of what I had observed in two kids the past few months. One of them 18 and the other 14. (18 is still a kid in my point of view). Their guardians feared for them, and reacted according to that fear. The kids became suppressed emotionally because of the guardians. When they became suppressed they ended up causing havoc, as a way to call for attention. Most would "mis-behave" displaying their shadows and would end up with punishment from their guardians.  (The problem i see,is that most parents or guardians, underestimates a child, and forget that they were once children too. They should be able to relate. Instead, however; they end up punishing the kid, "grounding them" or making them do chores, or sending them to bed without their supper.)

Ever watched a Christmas story? What goes on through Ralph's mind after the soap scene? Notice the smile he gives at the end knowing his parents feel guilty? You've just caught a glimpse of the shadow.




The 18 year old kid, began having schizophrenic moments and the past few years displayed his rage next door.

New years eve 2011 he had caused havoc at the gathering of his family. He ended up breaking the music equipment, knocked over most of the foods, dishes, anything that was in his way, bared the consequences of this kids rage. I could hear from where I am sitting now, how his uncle held him down, pinned against the floor. I could hear yelling s- "put down the knife!" and a girl who I identified being his cousin, cried out of fear and shock.

I felt sorry for him, because I knew how his parents were however, the kid had been suppressed nearly all his life. I would observe these kids, and eventually decided to have a talk with them. Keep in mind, these kids were rebellious towards their guardians, and those of "authority."  They barely listened to anyone, because of inner protest since no one was willing to give them a fair chance to express themselves.

As I related to them, they listened to what I had to say. They asked questions, and began understanding the events. They even began feeling remorse as they slowly began putting themselves in their parents shoes, understanding that they now were aware of their guardians ignorance, denial and fears.

I never thought I would acquire the ability to reach kids in this way, but perhaps my self preservation on my inner child allowed me to relate to them further.Nevertheless, I knew then that I needed to be careful with my words, and attempted mostly to give them unbiased points of views.

But, you know parents or guardians, their fear kicks in when they are unable to understand the unknown. It seems my point of view was "too radical" for their safe world, and they ended up forbidding the 18 year old from speaking with me. Whatever influence I may have had on him, vanished, the more the guardians suppressed him out of fear. Once more he became lost in his own mind, forgetting anything I may have told him. Here his shadow began to grow the more he threw spite against his oppressors.

The warning signs were there. As an empath, I could feel his cry for help, boiling inside him, that desperate voice attempting to come out, yet was suppressed. I was aware of them, but was unable to do anything, mostly because i was barred from reaching him.(Watch the movie disturbing behavior, it has some clues about what happens when emotions becomes suppressed.)

So I maintained a distance, and simply observed. A few days ago, that kid, burned down his house, took a knife and pierced all four tires of his fathers car. A burning wall of the house fell on a dog chained to the fence burning him to death. (I apologize about the details, however, this has to be said, the truth cannot be sugar coated if it is to leave an impact.)

The kid ended up in a psychiatric ward and is now awaiting trial. Tragic, that it ended up that way, one could blame his parents, but they themselves are "victims" to a society designed through fear and oppression. One could blame the system, but the system in itself is a choice. Ultimately we are to blame for our own choices, to follow a system which is designed to destroy natures way of life, or to turn our backs on it and think of alternative ways of life. In that, is where we have free-will.

Our choices, do affect others, it effects the world around us. We create our own nightmares by suppressing others as we suppress ourselves. We end up living in fear, and that fear manifests because we are unwilling to embrace the unknown. And when we do make the choice, we live in fear of performing it's action, as was my case when I attempted to ask for donations. It took allot to ask for help and deal with emotions that emerged from the minds chatter at the same time. (This was largely due to  protest from my own dislike of money. Thoughts emerged that of me being a hypocrite for utilizing the tool of the very system I come to despise, along with the negative attitudes that came from it's usage and wielders.

I had attempted to use the law of attraction in the past, the whole believe in yourself attitude, which ironically gives you "self worth" and self worth is actually ego, which seems to contradict spirituality.

A choice emerges now, to ________ or ________.

During Negative Self Sabbottage
Mind's chatter

This was a conflict inside myself that I recognized. Either to play the game of reality or "escape it". However, these words do not fully describe what I felt, since at the present I am unable to fully express that into words.  But I brought this mostly as an example of the inner conflict that occurs in the shadows. That which is not seen and hidden behind the mask.

During Neutrality, I Am Presence

Kudos to whoever made this art

Perhaps one day humanity will unmask itself revealing themselves for who they are, and put aside our differences by choosing to relate, instead of suppressing others through our own personal fears, forcing beliefs, or attempting to change something outside of the self. I wonder, what would happen, if everyone simply allowed everyone to be as they are. Perhaps, instead of forcing others to being like what we believe to represent, we may find we have much more in common if we allowed each-other to be.

Uniqueness can be a magical thing which is part of a greater whole.

Disclaimer: The Author of this post, does not take credit for the images. The use of the images is mainly for educational purposes and is classified under Fair-use.